(Baca juga: Di-bully oleh Teman-temannya, Murid SMP Ini Malah Diantar ke Sekolah oleh 50 Pengemudi Moge)
Beragam komentar dari unggahan tersebut di dapatnya, mulai dari yang positif hingga negatif.
Bila sebagian orang memilih untuk mengabaikan, memblok, bahkan melaporkan akun-akun tersebut, Manion memilih untuk membalas komentar-komentar itu.
As a woman, I feel so much pressure to look put together and well-dressed every single day. As a plus size woman, I feel that pressure even more so than when I was a straight size. I think part of that is because there are plus size women out there who have hid their bodies under baggy clothes for long periods of time - whether it be because we were ashamed to show our bodies or because we didn't have access to clothes we like that fit. Another part of this reasoning is because people judge. I already have a strike against me for going out in public as a fat person; I'm looked down upon and shamed. And I get another strike if I'm not dressed well. This world cares so much about image, so sometimes we have to conform to the pressures. Because as a woman, if I'm not wearing makeup, I'm told I look 'sick' and 'tired', and maybe even 'ugly'. As a woman, if I'm wearing a simple and comfy outfit, I'm not 'trying hard enough'. As a plus size woman, if I'm wearing comfy clothes, I'm seen as 'not trying hard enough' too, but even more so because I'm fat. In many people's eyes, fat equals lazy/unhealthy/gross. So it's another strike of judgment when I'm not putting all my effort into that day's look. And especially now that I have embraced my body as a fat person, people also expect me to ALWAYS be wearing risqué clothing. I'm here to tell you to eff the rules. If you want to wear something baggy (I do for comfort or on days I don't want to stand out), you are no less confident or worthy. You don't HAVE to always look like a 10. What matters is that you feel like a 10, or that you are working towards that number (because you deserve to feel good about yourself!). We may have days we don't want to wear makeup, or form fitting clothing, or more risqué outfits. That doesn't mean that we hate ourselves or that we were faking being confident all along. It just means whatever because it simply doesn't matter. You don't have to wear sheer clothing, less clothing or tight clothing (unless you want to!) to prove you are confident or body positive. Confidence isn't just how we look; it can also be seen in how we speak, and in how we treat ourselves and others.
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Bukan komentar kebencian yang ia lontarkan, namun komentar lain yang membangun.
Perempuan 22 tahun ini biasanya menanggapi komentar negatif dengan mengomentari sisi positif dari lawan bicaranya di sosial media.
Misalnya ketika ada komentar dengan ujaran kebencian, Manion membalasnya dengan hal lain yang membangun.
Dikutip dari Huffpost, Manion berkata, “Saya membalas pesannya dengan mengatakan jika saya menyukai ejaan namanya, bahwa itu sangat unik dan cantik.”
Reaksi yang diterimanya tidak lagi merundungnya dengan komentar jahat, justru lawan bicaranya melalui sosial media berbalik menjadi tersentuh.
(Baca juga: Sedih, Anak dengan Autisme Ini Tidak Hanya Di-bully Tapi juga Dilempari Papan Berpaku Hingga Menancap di Kepalanya)
Ternyata apa yang dilakukan Manion membawa banyak manfaat dan sejalan dengan penelitian pada 2010.
Diterbitkan dalam Journal of Social Psychology, penelitian ini menguji dampak tindakan kebaikan terhadap kebahagiaan seseorang.
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